When we are young we start out playing hard to get. He says yes, we say no. Our no is weak and really means “I think so”. When we are young, it may not necessarily be right but as young men and young women we knew that game and most of us played that game.
The problem is when you grow up, No means maybe, is childish and misleading. Grown folks don’t play that game anymore. When you grow up you are expected to say what you mean and mean what you say.
Well damn you liked the “CHASE” you don’t want give it up. Who says you have to give it up. But you do need to be grown up about it. First and foremost if you are interested in a man tell him. If you just like him and don’t intend to give him any (yes I said it) you need to be honest about that up front. Because ladies we need to stop lying, we know when we meet a man, most times right away if we would every consider giving him any.
You know we meet a man and in the back of our minds we say, “No way would I give him any” or there is the “Damn I wouldn’t mind tapping that”. And men if you think you are the only ones who think that way, you are sadly mistaken.
It is never right to let a person believe they have a chance of getting the goodies if they don’t, and this doesn’t apply to just women, you men need to act like grown ups as well.
Before we get into the example of a GROWN FOLKS CHASE let’s chat a little.
First Things First!!! Women it is time to put away our little girl ways, put them in the keepsake box where they belong. We are grown women, with grown women appetites and grown women needs.
As grown women we come in all shapes and sizes. Not every woman is meant to be thin. We need to address that body type/size issue from a health prospective, for ourselves not for the man in our life or the man that may one day be in our lives. We have to learn to love and like ourselves.
Women we need to understand ourselves, know what we like, what we don’t like, what we want, and more important what we don’t want.
WE AS WOMEN DO NOT HAVE TO THINK ALIKE, LOOK ALIKE, ETC. IT IS ALRIGHT TO BE DIFFERENT!!!!
Just like we may like a dark skinned man verses a light skinned man or a bald headed man. Some men like thin women and there are the men who love a thick woman. And there are the men who like the ones in between.
If you find yourself attracted to a man who only likes thin women and you are a thick woman, leave it alone. Just because you are attracted to someone does not mean you are meant to be together. Think to yourself damn he’s fine then file it away and move on. Don’t waste your time, charms and skills on a man who is not interested. You deserve better.
Now GROWN FOLKS CHASE
What is a grown up chase, well look at it this way, a man and a woman meet, they like each other, they are attracted to each other but one is let’s say more ready then the other, the person that is not quite in the mood may just need a little push.
And it is not true that it is always the man who is the more then ready one. Ladies today we find ourselves looking at the man who is interested and attracted to us but not quite ready to “JUMP OUR BONES”. Now I did not say he wasn't interested in getting the goodies, I’m just saying he is not exactly HOT for them.
This is where the GROWN FOLKS CHASE comes in at. You both know you want, you both know it is going to happen, so what’s the DAMN HURRY. Be honest has there every been a time when you were really into someone, you jumped to it right away and was disappointed, it could have been because the actual act lacked passion.
Ladies it is time to fine tune those skills. Before you jump right to it.
SEDUCE THAT MAN!!!!!
Engage his mind as well as his body. Seduction is not necessarily physical. Flirt with the man, work those eyes, and dust off those skills. Anticipation is the match that ignites passion.
Get that man to the point he wants, really wants it.
And in closing, I have one other thing to say,
FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS RIGHT WHEN THAT HOT MAN SHOWS UP TO THE PARTY, PASSION IN TOE THERE HAD BETTER BE A HOT BLOODED FIRED UP PASSIONATE WOMAN THERE TO MEET HIM.
GROW UP!!!!!!
