This is for Anonymous. aka Disbeleiver

GoodKnight said...

This is for Anonymous. I am a man and agree with Vanity. This is just my experience and perspective. My first wife was highly critical of herself and could never accept herself in appearance or as a person. Her dissatisfaction with herself showed in her facial _expression, body language (the way she carried herself), her moods, disposition, and her work. Her poor opinion of herself and belief that she could not satisfy anyone, beginning with herself, was the root cause of our divorce and her self destruction. Most people would agree that my new wife, at first glance does not appear very attractive, and she would also agree. But what makes her attractive and desirable is that she believes she is attractive! She projects this self-confidence and desirability in the way she stands, walks, and talks – in just about everything she does. It’s her entire attitude. Now what is strange is that she is notoriously clumsy! But even that she turns into positives, by making light of it! People used to call this attractiveness "that certain something" and that something is her belief that she is attractive and desirable. Though she expresses herself as a modest person, her body language says that she is Wonder Woman and the Goddess of Love all-in-one. I had a psychology teacher in school that told us that if some believes that they are someone, and pretends to be that person long enough, they will actually become that person. So you have to ask yourself, who do you want to be and who do you diet for? Do you diet for your health, or for those who you think would find you attractive with less weight? If it is not for you, than you are making a big mistake. You are who you are and you are who you want to be. So be who you want to be - a devastating beauty who is envied by women and desired by all men. If you think you need to eat better and lose weight for health reasons, then do it for YOU. You be the fun, outgoing, sexy person who everyone congregates around at parties. Forget about being negative. Turn the negatives into positives, accentuate it, flaunt it, walk it, talk it, and most importantly - believe it! By the way, men may make a lot of noise about certain female bodies, or even date to have fun with these certain bodies, but they want to settle down with a person. Do you think they want to settle down with someone who is unhappy with themselves? If you don’t learn to love yourself, then you will be too distracted to love anyone else.